Everyday Is A Canvas
Did you know that every day is a canvas for you to paint anything you want? You get to choose what to paint and which colors to use. You may ask, "How can you paint anything when the people that you come across can spoil your day?" "How can you paint anything when people make you angry?" "Paint?" "Paint?" "If anything you might get some scribbles from me." Well, I will take those scribbles as long as they are in the colors of your choice.
I get it; life is complicated and sometimes people and situations can get the best of us, but, we cannot stop being ourselves because someone is having a bad day. We need to continue being ourselves as much as we can.
One day I saw a young lady in distress, and I tried to help her. I tried talking to her, and she came at me with cursing and attacking words. Believe me; she was saying those words in English and Spanish, and for a split second, I wanted to go “ballistic" on her. I could have cursed back and attacked back, but I stopped for a second to look at her as she was going off on me. To her, at that moment, I think I represented every situation that went wrong for her, and I could see the pain in her eyes, and it broke my heart. I kept talking to her in a soft voice until she softened her voice. I’m not going to lie to you, at one point I had to make a decision; do I ignore her pain and worry about my ego? Or do I ignore my ego and worry about her pain? I could have let her spoil my day by taking her words personal, and then talked about my “bad experience” to everyone I ran into for the rest of the day, but I did not. I could have mentioned what a horrible day I was having because of the incident with this woman. Allowed her to spoil my day painting my canvas gray, maybe even black. I did not know her. Therefore I knew the words she was throwing were aimless. Maybe she wanted me to care but knew that eventually, I would not and walk away, but I decided to stick it out and at the end, she knew someone did care. I won’t go into the details but let me just tell you that before I left her, I got a smile from her.
Another day, my husband got into a car accident, and I went to his aid. The family of the lady that was driving the other vehicle was there. I had to make a decision, do I approach them with an attitude or a smile. I smiled, and at the end, we hugged and said goodbye. Our car was in bad shape, but neither of them was hurt.
How about at home, in a marriage? When one of you, wake up on the wrong side of the bed. That should not shape you; you are an individual, and you each have a canvas to paint. Choose wisely how you will paint your canvas for the day.
I am not saying allow people to mistreat you and walk all over you that is not what I am saying. What I am saying is do not give others the power to dictate what you should paint on your canvas. I understand that there will be unfortunate situations that will paint your day but when at all possible as long as it depends on you keep the peace. Continue to be you. You choose how your day unfolds.
We were all given 24 hours in a day, we each choose what to do in a day, and the outcome is our responsibility. Every day is a canvas, and you pick your colors. Blanco, rojo, rosa, Amarillo, negro, o gris.
De qué color es tu día hoy?